Yes Justin, you are the inspiration for this blog. You are not the only reason that I am writing it though. Many people, including our fantastic brother Jordan, also fall into this trap. My goal is to try to help people thoroughly consider their decisions before they make life changing moves.
I think that most people would agree that it is rash to make a decision without thoroughly considering the alternatives (except in life or death emergency type situations). Why then do so many people make poor decisions? My opinion is that these kind of poor decisions are made usually out of the wrong type of motivation- laziness, fear, boredom and despair. Deciding to get married young is just this sort of decision.
In almost all cases, getting married young is a bad idea. Why? It’s not a life or death situation. Waiting a few more years is very easy to do. You can have all of the benefits of marriage if you want them- living together, constant love and caring, sex, and everything else- without having the obligation of a lifetime of dedication to someone else. People who are very young will still grow and mature and change a whole lot and maybe you will one day hate the person you are in love with now.
Here’s the top reasons NOT to get married young:
-Adventures. Think of all of the amazing places you could go, toys you could buy, cars you could drive, women you could make scream and diseases you could cure if you didn’t have the constant burdening distraction of marriage.
-You don’t need to get married young. In America’s permissive culture today, you can have all of the benefits of marriage without the metal ring holding you down.
-Potential pregnancy does not make marriage a necessity. Use a condom, birth control and blow jobs to avoid the risk of pregnancy and if it does happen, abortions are easy to get. If you’re too cheap for abortions, golf clubs are easily available at many thrift stores.
-Financial stability is a must for marriage. A marriage is a commitment that requires tons of work and effort to make successful and money problems are listed as the biggest cause for divorce in America. People who get married when they are in debt (Justin) are just making it that much harder on themselves.
-No responsibility. When you aren’t married, you are your own man. You can do whatever you please. If you are married, your time and money and efforts will all go into your partner.
Some people say that their religious beliefs prevent them from having sex before marriage, but that is obviously not the issue here.
Anyway, Justin will live his own life and make his own decisions and no one can control them for him. He doesn’t listen to me, but hopefully someone else contemplating marriage will come across this blog and make the right decision to wait.