It sounds like you guys have tried a lot of options! Public school, private school, and home school.
It also sounds like your kids are getting to try tons of different activities, which is fantastic!
I don’t think any one option is best for every kid. Kate really flourishes in public school with all the socializing, Griffin prefers being home schooled.
Art and music are great for kids who like them, and miserable for those who don’t. Just like carpentry and welding aren’t for everyone, nor are sports. Kids should have a great deal of flexibility to try things and avoid stuff that they dislike and really pursue options they have passion for.
I would like every child to be able to pick and choose what works best for them, not just the children of the wealthy like us. I also want school bureaucrats and teachers that are not good to be held accountable and no children to have to suffer under them. School choice is what would give everyone the opportunities we have.