https://carsonogenic.substack.com/p/polyamory-doesnt-liberate-monogamy
I found this post and here was my thoughts:
Fantastic article, but as a monogamous married father of 4, I think the author misses the fundamental point of all relationships… And the point of life itself: Reproduction.
The primary drive of every living creature from whales to amoeba is to procreate. Having children is WHY we have a sex drive and an urge to have relationships in the first place.
Tons of studies show children require stability in the relationships in their lives. Poly may work great for people without children, but children need the stability of long term committed parents who are always there and this is best provided by monogamy.
Also – other people’s comments here are interesting – https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=42464679. It sounds like most people have had negative experiences with polyamory if they have experienced it.