How should you best handle confrontation and conflict with people around you?
Don’t be like me. 1
I have been reflecting lately and after talking to some of my friends and other people, I have realized that I carry a significantly more confrontational style of interacting with others than most people.‚ Even at work, there have been a couple of incidents where I stopped behaving like a friendly professional and went into a battle mode.‚ A couple of days ago, I was frustratedly trying to get a raise/promotion and took an aggressive, argumentative approach which ended with me saying some things that I had to apologize to people for later.‚ The way for me to change my overly confrontational style to conflict is to be conscious that I do it and to keep myself in line whenever it happens.
Don’t get me wrong though: confrontation and conflict have their place in society and there are many people who are too shy to resolve issues because they believe any confrontational conflict is a horrible thing.‚ Dealing with the Hitlers of the world, institutionalized problems and some of life’s stumbling blocks takes a hardline approach.‚ If used correctly, confrontational style can help overcome many challenges including starting a business and protecting your interests and family.
When I was younger, I began to be more argumentative and obstinate than I should be when dealing with others.‚ I have made an effort since then to become a better person and find alternative solutions to problems besides confrontation and conflict, but I have not made as much progress as I thought I had.‚ Speaking with several of my close friends revealed that they have more conflicts with me than they do with most other people they interact with.‚ I need to begin to find alternative resolutions to confrontation and conflict.‚ Perhaps I will host tea parties for my enemies.