Guest opinion blog post by Jordan.
Justin, the third brother in my family, is stricken by the same affliction as I am. If we reach a certain rage threshold we stop caring about consequences and lash out as hard as we can. I have had the misfortune of being on the receiving end of his fighting spirit before and it is unpleasant.
When I was about 13 and he was 9ish, we were horsing around around after dinner by our big wooden dining table and I was teasing him and pushing him around. My dad and other brothers were still sitting down eating and laughing at us. Justin’s temper kept getting hotter and hotter, but I got him in a bear hug from behind and used my size to keep him from doing anything to me while I harassed him goodnaturedly. He had had enough though; his face was red and he was steaming mad though there wasn’t much he could do. Finally his anger thermometer burst.
He bent down at the waist as far as he could, pulling his head and body down into a a standing fetal position. His head was lowered to down by his knees and with a sudden violent leap used his entire body’s force to slam the back of his head into my nose in a mighty headbutt.
After a stunned second of silence, I flipped him upside down and my dad yelled, “STOP!!!”, just as I started downwards in a piledriver.
I froze and stared at them for a second deciding what to do. I laughed and flipped Justin right side up and went and got some tissue for my nose.
Last night, I had my brother Jordan and his wife Meghan over to my studio apartment in Seattle for dinner.‚ Since it is still rather wintry and cold outside, I made up a pretty hearty meal.‚ Our appetizer was Italian crackers with fresh goat cheese and olive & pepper bruschetta on top.‚ The main course was italian chicken sausage with red peppers, pretty rich mashed potato casserole and sauteed brussell sprouts (a million times better than boiled brussel sprouts).‚ We shared a bottle of merlot with the appetizers and each had a beer with the main meal.‚ Good times.
Jordan and Meghan are doing well.‚ I have three younger brothers, Jordan is the next eldest.‚ Jordan is still working as an upscale furniture salesman, making good money but looking for something new.‚ Meghan is about to start her old job of merchandising various stores again soon.‚ It sounds like they still intend to follow their silly plan of building a house, even though buying a house is much cheaper right now and prices will continue to go down.
We discussed our other two brothers as well.‚ Justin is supposed to be starting up at the UW again, after a layoff he unfortunately forgot to tell me about.‚ Good kids, even if they are a little confused at times.
Should be taught by this kid.
Now that’s a future star if I’ve ever seen one. I can’t even sing the first three words of “Hey Jude” lol.
My new sister-in-law sent me a link to some of the wedding photos from Hawaii. More photos below:
Not sure what is going on below… lol
I just read Jordan’s blog entry on Justin staying in school. Jordan’s absolutely correct, Justin must stay in school.
However, I hate how everyone in our family always blames other people when they fail in their responsibilities. If Justin fails in school, it’ll be his own damned fault. He is the idiot who decided he needed to waste his money on a single, he is the one who made a decision to drop a class, he is the one who allows himself to be distracted constantly.
Justin, quit being a coward and stop letting people blame your girlfriend for your own mistakes. Stand up for her or don’t be with her. Don’t let anyone control you either. If I was her, I would leave you if you dropped out. Who wants to date a quitter and a failure? No ones wants to be around someone who has shut their doors and is desperate and sad. You are on that path if you don’t grow some willpower and turn yourself around. Fix it. You have a pretty good example in Jordan; he works full time, has a family and goes to school full time (though his grades could be better).
Jordan, Josh, Mom and everyone else needs to lay off Heather. She is fine, the problem is Justin. Get your shit together, Justin. If you’re too immature to handle a girlfriend at this point in your life along with your other responsibilities, don’t have one.
My little brother Justin has joined the hordes of people attacking the internet. You can see his blog at http://justinjames.blog.com/.
Jordan Gross is my second brother; he’s 22, married and lives in Kent. I keep telling him that if he is going to live in the boonies and be married at such a young age, he needs to start his army. Pump out dem babies!!! The world record for most children is 69… I think you can beat it!
Since Jordan and I are only 18 months apart in age, he was my very first friend. In preschool, Jordan and I were best friends and played together constantly. We even took baths together and my mom has a picture of the two of us with a poop floating in the middle.
Like my illustrations? 😉
Jordan and I lived together with my parents until I was 14 and moved in with my grandparents. We regrouped in college, and lived together for a year. I sadly hardly ever saw him though because he worked full-time, went to school full-time and any spare time was spent with his then-fiance Meghan. I think part of the problem may have been that Meghan didn’t like to visit us much because I would occasionally terrify her. Poor Meghan. She grew up in a very strict religious household and is pretty sheltered; this summer her, Jordan and I drove up to my grandparents cabin for the family reunion and she made me tell some of my stories as she listened in fascinated horror. I think her and Jordan have started to view me as some sort of walking freak show.
A couple of weeks ago, I went down to Southcenter mall and visited Jordan at his job selling furniture for Bassett. Bassett Furniture is a strange store; they sell lots of fancy furniture… but seem to have a strange obsession with giant black cocks. Seriously. Walking around their store, they had probably 20 statues of rooster’s scattered around. If they didn’t cost $160, I would’ve purchased one for the infamous Black Rooster, Faryar.
Following in his big brother’s footsteps, Jordan has started a blog. He only has 3 posts so far and speaks in very vague terms, but it’s a start.
All in all, Jordan is a hard worker and will be very successful in his life if he keeps putting in the effort I’ve seen him put forth so far. Jordan is by far the brother with the most social skills and can get along with most people. I proudly take credit for helping him develop these skills… Can you imagine having an ass like me for a big brother? I was stubborn and selfish and would pound on him if I got mad about something, so he had to develop diplomatic talents to better work with me and keep me at bay. A lot of those lessons he had to learn the hard way though… I can still remember sitting in the car with him, while he sang songs to bug me and making faces when our parents weren’t looking and becoming so enraged that I would start hitting him lol.
Jordan is a real sharp guy too. He has a good understanding of the world around him and generally is pretty smart about getting what he wants. If I owned a business, I would hire Jordan to work for me. As a personal assistant.. j/k 😉
My brothers and my grandma are the most important people in my life and I would do anything for them. Great people.
Just wanted to thank you for some things,
Lately I have seen the many contradictions the Christian religion has, and it’s many contradictions it makes with itself. I think somewhere inside I’m still trying to cling onto the faith, but every day I begin to see the truth more and more. The only reason I ever really was a Christian was because it made myself feel good to think that there was something out there that could perform a miracle to make my life better, but now I realize all I needed to do was do it myself. Also, we were drilled with religion since we we’re young, and told we would go to hell if we didn’t agree with what God/Bible said. I feel free now, like I took off a heavy weight on my shoulders, it feels better than (deleted lol). Even I now realize how dumb it is to say “cuss” words are bad, people that said they’re bad were the ones who made them bad, after all they’re just words. (Personal… deleted.) And I look forward to satisfy my need for woman, just need to stay safe (hahahhahaha… he’s my blood for sure 😉 ). I wanted to thank you for helping me get out of this religious suck.
Seeing this message blew my mind. I was Josh’s age when I really started to question religion and it was one of the toughest, most thought out decisions I’ve ever made when I moved on to better pastures. For me, it was a process of going back and forth inside my head for several years. I didn’t really start to settle the issues to till I was 16 and it took me two more years to muster the courage and strength of purpose to tell everyone I knew. At that time, every person in my life was religious (entire family and I attended a religious school, so all my friends were the same way). Joshua has thought it out and announced to everyone he knows at the very young age that he will not bow to brainwashing and superstition any longer. He still lives with my abusive father, Randall Gross, and probably will have to put up with a lot of harassment from him and all the other religious people in his life. Josh is a stud though and should be alright. He posted this on his myspace:
As of late I have decided not to join the Freemasons. This is because I do not meet one of the requirements: believe in a Supreme Being. I have lately been questioning the Christian faith. And as I begin to question the religion I realize its many flaws ( contact me and I will tell you why). The only reason why I was ever Christian was because it was drilled into my head that if I wasn’t Christian I would go to Hell, I feel the only reason why I stuck with it until now was out of a fear, but now I see how the religion contradicts itself countless times ( again please contact me again and I will tell you why).
Josh is my new hero.