I Believe In The 2nd Amendment

I am a firm believer in the 2nd Amendment right to bear arms. I do not believe in this right because I want to hunt animals, or protect my home against burglars. I believe in this right as the founders of America intended it: to protect the freedom of the people against oppression and tyranny.

The sitting President of the United States has been under investigation for potential treason. Strong evidence exists that he has come under undue influence from a hostile foreign state. Russia has been aggressively trying to subvert democracies world wide to further it’s own interests, and it appears our government may have been one of them.

The FBI has been investigating these potential issues, and in a very dark twist, President Trump demanded personal loyalty from the FBI Director and when the FBI Director told Trump he would give him honesty, Trump fired him. It is shocking to see this happen in America, though it’s a common occurrence in dictatorships in places like Turkey, North Korea, and Egypt.

This appears to be a blatant obstruction of justice. Our country depends on the rule of law and justice for everyone. We also depend on free and fair elections, and leaders who are not dependent on hostile foreign powers.

Our freedom in America may be under severe attack and this is the time our citizens need to take a hard look at exercising our 2nd Amendment rights. If you allow for attacks on our freedom like this, it’s a short road to being ruled by a fully authoritarian government.

I am a successful business owner and am closest to being a Libertarian. A lot of Trump’s tax and healthcare and economic policies would directly benefit me. I do believe in reductions to government spending (both to military and entitlements). However, I would rather see Trump impeached and a big government liberal elected than see us lose our freedom to a foreign power’s influence and watch the rise of a tyrant.

What is the red line for when citizens need to exercise their 2nd Amendment? Has it been crossed?

 

Wedding Gossip

“Every trip needs it’s villain”.

Laurel and I came to sun drenched and tropical Tulum, Mexico for Jeremy’s destination wedding this last week.

Daniel, the angry investment banker “glamped” in a tent in town. Andy brought his hallucinogens, hammock for sleeping in the woods to save money, and his Mormon girlfriend. Jeremy paid for his kindly redneck dad and family to attend. Dorothy’s nice conservative Romanian Christian parents reluctantly came.

We swam in a cenote – basically an underground cave and saw thousands of bats roosting on the ceiling. Jeremy told Dorothy’s dad, Toma, that he would have to swim underwater and surface only to breathe poisonous air. Toma decided not to go in. Turned out you never had to go underwater and the only problem with the air was it smelled like a hamster cage from all the bats.

Levi and Jenny were scarcely seen as Montezuma’s Revenge set in early. A couple of days later, their dog escaped from Jenny’s parents house and was eaten by a coyote.

Jeremy’s dad, Jay, said he liked to ski (referencing waterskiing). Rich said, “You mean like hollywood skiing?” with a finger to his nose making a snorting gesture. Jay replied, “I’ve never done cocaine, drink is my poison.”

Toma, the successful real estate agent, joined us for Jeremy’s bachelor day on a catamaran. Andy sat cross-legged in front of him and said, “I got my real estate license because I hate real estate agents and can’t imagine paying one.” Toma just stared at him.

Every gas station had a scam. At my first gas station, I ran into the “I thought you requested premium gas” scam. I sat at the pump and told them I was calling headquarters till they added $10 more gas free of charge. They probably scam enough tourists to make it worth it to give up if anyone fights back.

Jeremy got tired of people’s questions early. Dorothy took over routing all of the friends and family into the hotel.

Andy’s Mormon girlfriend did not speak to anyone and told Andy, “You said all of your friends were super intelligent, they all just seem stupid to me.” Andy passed this along to the rest of us and so everyone loved to hate her after that, leading to Jeremy commenting “Every trip needs a villain”.

The wedding itself was beautiful, outside of a hotel with a 270 degree view of the turquoise ocean. We had delicious ceviche and tacos and giant margaritas in coconuts. Jeremy and Dorothy wrote their own vows, which included a commitment to building a commune. The vows were quite good.

Jeremy told Dorothy I didn’t approve of their marriage. Not true – I think Dorothy is amazing and great for Jeremy. Jeremy had told me a few months ago that he was thinking about asking Dorothy to marry him. He had told me she could be quite difficult. I told him I dated Tara, who was quite difficult and that relationship didn’t work out for me. He took that to mean I disapproved. He forgot that I had ended with “I like Dorothy and think you should get married”.

Conclusion: strong personalities that don’t hold much consideration for others leads to interesting drama and later fun gossip.

Stories

I am often afraid of sharing my stories from business here on my blog. Some of the more interesting stories will contain mistakes I’ve made and I worry that that could cause companies not to want to hire us or possibly even lawsuits from people who might feel like I have defamed them. However, I think it would be extraordinarily helpful to other CEO’s and Founder’s for these stories to be shared so that we can all learn from them and not just have each of us make the same mistakes over and over.

Proposal

The apartment was quiet and spotlessly clean. Lots of delicious food was on the counter, along with a bottle of good champagne. I stood by the front door, shifting from foot to foot and sweating, dressed in a nice dark green button down shirt and a good pair of dark jeans. After an interminable wait, there was finally the rattling of the key in the lock. I opened the door, surprising Laurel. She came in and I gave her a hug and kiss. Then I dropped to one knee, and said “Will you marry me?”. With tears in her eyes, she said yes and we celebrated with a glass of the best champagne we’d ever had.

Surrogate Parenthood: 1,000 Children

I proposed an idea to Laurel today: We could have 1,000 children that are 100% ours through surrogacy. Basically, the scientific technique is that they harvest her eggs and my sperm and then implant fertilized eggs in a surrogate mother.

Rinse and repeat 1,000 times and you have 1,000 children that are all genetically yours.

I don’t think I could even remember that many names.

Not sure what the legalities are, but at least from a cost perspective you would need to go somewhere far less expensive than the United States with much more lax laws on surrogacy.

Laurel said no.

Why I Spent $100k To Fight A $10k Small Claims Lawsuit

What follows is my personal perspective on an interesting dispute. Obviously, it is only my opinion of the situation and there are two sides to every story. I invite the other side to respond if they wish in the comments. I also made the decision to keep the other side anonymous after I first wrote the post with real names, mostly because I hope to not inflame them further and I would prefer to never hear from them again. 

When I was ten years old, I was at recess playing tag with my friends. One boy got into an argument with me about something. He stepped close and hit me, then ran away. I chased him, but he ran up to the teacher monitoring recess who had not seen anything previous. He gave her a big hug, and looked back at me with a grin.

As an adult, I was put into a similar situation. My company, Coalition Technologies, was hired by another company – TheClientCompany – to upgrade their website theme on BigCommerce starting on August 26, 2014.

It was a relatively small project that looked straightforward. The CEO and owner of TheClientCompany, a fellow named John Donald Deep (he goes by Donald), actually provided us the PSDs so it was just going to be a simple HTML / CSS build. Donald was paying us $12,000 for 116 hours of work to convert his PSDs and set up a few extra features on his website. We provided a rough estimate of 30 business days (6 calendar weeks) to complete the project.

Once the project got started, my development team realized that the PSDs provided by the client weren’t in a format conducive to a web build. We let the client know about this, and volunteered to help fix his PSDs at no additional charge to him. Our designer spent a couple of weeks fixing these PSDs and getting everything corrected, then handed it off to our developers around September 5th, 2014.

My developers worked on the construction of the website and roughly six weeks later at the end of October they were wrapping up work. However, Donald Deep at this point began to make lots of requests for out of scope items not included in the contract. My team bent over backwards to accommodate him and finish these items. By the beginning of November, we had gone far beyond what he had paid for. Our team had racked up 294 hours of work on a project that TheClientCompany had only paid 116 hours for. Our contract requires that before a website launches, final payment must be made. My team launched despite this and continued to work on it for him. When I reviewed the situation, I was quite frustrated at having lost money on this project.

I contacted the client and let him know that he needed to make his second half payment (he had paid the first half when we started). I also let him know that any further out of scope work would require a retainer, but that we’d be happy to help him with it.

Donald Deep’s email back to me was close to 2,000 words of outrage that I would request the final payment before he was perfectly happy with everything we did. My reaction back was poor: in my email back I told him I was stopping all work on the project and reverting his website back to his old theme until he sent payment. He was still able to sell and process orders like he had done for years before hiring us – it was just that he had to do it using his old theme again.

Donald absolutely exploded. His next email to me was over 10,000 words of outrage. All caps were used quite extensively, as well as many exclamation marks, and accusations of every kind. I became angry reading through this.

I replied with a short email stating we would be happy to do more work on his website, but that he still had to pay his final payment first and set up a retainer for further work.

After a couple of days, I received an email from Mr. Deep saying that his “life is amazing” and that he “was feel good today” and wanted to settle this matter. This seemed a bit crazy to me, but I was happy that he was willing to solve the issue together now. He said that he had hired a new development firm and just wanted to make the final payment to me in return for all the code we had written and have them finish the work. I agreed, with the condition that he not do a chargeback later. Donald Deep replied later that same day and agreed.

I released the code to him and he gave me the payment and I forgot about the matter…. until 3 months later I received a notice that the TheClientCompany was attempting a chargeback. Ugh, quite frustrating. I spent a couple of full days preparing all the email records, the contract, screenshots showing the website was completed and submitted all of this to the credit card company. A few weeks later, the credit card company agreed we had done the work and gave us back the money they had put on hold.

Once again, I forgot about the matter.

A full year or so later, the true drama began.

I received a letter from a law firm demanding that I pay $250,000 for damages to TheClientCompany. Not sure how they calculated that when they had only paid $12k for the website and their revenues were quite small (to the best of my recollection it might have been a few thousand a month total sales). I sent a reply back explaining my perspective on what had happened and providing evidence and that Donald Deep had of his own volition provided me a written settlement offer after all was said and done.

A few weeks later I received a small claims notice in the mail that I was being sued for $10,000 (the small claims maximum) by Donald Deep. At this point, I made my biggest mistake and figured it was such an obvious win that I did not even need to attend the small claims hearing. After all – we had clear evidence showing we did all of the work and Donald Deep himself had proposed a written settlement agreement after all was said and done. I sent my office assistant in my place to explain the matter.

My office assistant told me that the judge did not give him a chance to present the case and appeared to be angry and berated him. He told me that in less than ten minutes total the judge decided the case and moved on to the next one. A couple of weeks later, we received a judgement stating we had to pay $10,000 to TheClientCompany. I was completely shocked as I had thought it was such an obvious decision in our favor.

I read up further on California small claims and discovered that a defendant has a right to appeal and get a trial de nuevo… basically a new fresh trial. However, in the second trial the small claims cap of $10,000 is removed and the judge can potentially award much more money in damages to the plaintiff. This scared me, but I believed that we were in the right and had been treated unfairly in the first trial and had not had a chance to present our case. I filed the appeal.

About a month later, I appeared in court to defend our case. This time, Mr. Deep decided that he would not allow a pro tem to hear our case. A pro tem is an attorney who hears the case in place of a judge since California is very short on judges. Mr. Deep had allowed this the first time. There were no judges available to hear the case, so they rescheduled us for a month later.

This same thing repeated four or five more times.

Each time I was scheduled to appear in court, I spent a couple of hours the day before refreshing my memory on the case and the facts so that I could present our side. I would miss most of the day of work.

Finally, after almost a year of showing up in court only to have our case delayed again and again because Mr. Deep refused to let a pro tem hear us, a sympathetic court employee went hunting through the court house for a judge. She finally found a criminal commissioner (still not a judge), but Donald Deep agreed for the case to be heard by this individual. The criminal commissioner had left for the day though so we had to wait another month.

Both parties showed up to the court in December 2016 and the actual commissioner was there to hear the case. Unfortunately, the commissioner was a gentleman in his seventies and did not really understand even what a website was. After letting each side present their cases, he asked us to come back in a month with expert witnesses who could advise him on what was what.

Yesterday, January 6th 2017, we had our final hearing in this matter. The old commissioner had asked a younger commissioner to take his place in hearing the matter. This commissioner was very sharp and reviewed all of the evidence and asked tough questions. The commissioner ignored the usual small claims approach of each side presents for five minutes and then a decision is made; instead, she heard us for a full two hours. She even called for a break when Donald became upset. She allowed Donald to present all of his side of the story, then had me present my side.

A key moment came when I showed the judge that I had five separate sources each stating that I finished the work (Donald himself in emails from the time, BigCommerce’s agents in emails from the time, two separate digital agencies, myself, and my expert witness) and THEN showed that Donald himself had come up with the final written settlement agreement and we had agreed to it in writing over email.

At that point, the judge said “I’ve heard enough to make my decision”. This is when Donald became upset and began trying to argue that he had more information to share. The judge agreed to let him have a fifteen minute break to regroup, after which Donald present all of the other arguments and documents he could muster. I was given a chance to respond and showed my response again. The judge then told us that we will receive the decision in the mail in thirty days.

I believe that I won the case since the judge made her statement that she had heard enough after reading the key evidence of Donald’s offer of the written settlement agreement. I would put my chances at 90% of having to pay nothing, and 10% that I am asked to pay some amount back up to the price of the contract. I will update this post when the decision is returned.

Did anything good come out of all of this? Trying to look at the bright side, I think I have gained a much better understanding of the law. Dealing with this issue as well as other legal issues and reading multiple books on legal issues, winning at trial, etc I think has left me with the equivalent of half a law degree. I have lots of experience now writing contracts, researching and preparing for a lawsuit, and arguing persuasively in front of a judge. I also believe that I am building a solid reputation for not being an easy target for the sharks out there. I was able to back down a patent troll recently- in a matter of days after filing the lawsuit they dismissed it.

Oh… to finish my story about the little boy who hit me then ran to the protection of the teacher monitoring recess. I ran right up to both of them, and punched him in the nose. I got in big trouble, but I thought it was worth it.

I try to live my life and run my company in a principled way. I don’t give on on principles even when it is financially the wise decision. Fighting this issue for the last two years has been frustrating and has cost me well over $100k in my time and my employees time. If I am in the wrong, I will try to make it right… however, if I believe I am in the right I will fight through multiple appeals and beyond all financial reason to win.

Excellent advice and commentary available on Hacker News on this topic.

Additional notes:

  1. The big mistake we made was to allow so many changes for free and also to launch the site prior to final payment being received. I have policies in the company against both of those things, but my project managers have a strong incentive to be lax on them. If they raise a flag, it will result in an unhappy client and an unhappy manager and they will be caught in the middle. It is easier for them to just push stuff through and hope it goes unnoticed. This has been a difficult issue for me to resolve and I am still trying to figure out better ways to incentivize my team to avoid this. It’s a bit of a balancing act.
  2. I should have attended the first hearing. I do find myself somewhat conflicted though as to what advice to offer others in the same situation. In California small claims court, it seems that you basically can appeal a decision for any reason as the defendant. You could almost make it a practice to send an entry level person to fight the first one and only if you lose, go back and appeal. The other shocking thing is that if state you will not stipulate to a pro tem hearing your case, your case will most likely be delayed again and again. You could almost just do that till the other party gives up. I have doubts that a person angry enough to sue would give up though – I did not.
  3. The “other legal issues” I mentioned were other lawsuits I have been through:-A patent troll sue me a few weeks ago (got it dismissed voluntarily)
    -Another client with a stronger case sue for breach of contract a year ago (I won that and got attorneys fees). This was extremely stressful as it was for big money. I read several law books to prep for this one.
    -Six year ago my first salesperson sued for commissions after I fired her (she won because I didn’t have a contract)
    I don’t want it to look like I get in a lot of lawsuits. I have had over a thousand clients and only two ended in lawsuits. I have also had over 250 employees and thousands of contractors and have only been sued once.

Food Poisoning

Laurel and I both got food poisoning on our last day in Big Bear after having eaten at Masala Indian Restaurant. Very unfortunate. I stayed up all night alternatively vomiting or having diarrhea. I also had a fever as my body tried to fight off the invader.

Having had food poisoning makes me much more appreciative of my usual good health though. I think I take it for granted that I feel great every day and can do anything I wish. I need to appreciate that more, because I won’t always have it.

Tribe

I would really like to build a community of people who get along well and live a bit more like our tribal ancestors.

Our modern society glorifies individualism and encourages isolation from others. Laurel and I’s closest family member is a 45 minute drive away and most are hours away. Our closest friend is 15 minutes away and most are much further.

Social isolation is a major cause of depression for many people. Humans are not meant to live alone without company… we need those we love around us every day.

I have fixed this issue for myself by building a routine where I call a family member or friend every single day. I typically do it during my morning and evening ten minute commutes to work. I think a lot of other people haven’t done something like this though and live in loneliness and isolation and depression.

For awhile now I have been talking to people about the possibility of a “commune” – probably not the right word given the connotations associated with it from the FCLDS, hippies, and other nuts. I think I will call it “tribe”… this is a more attractive term.

The basics of my idea is that I would like to organize a group of family and friends to live within walking distance of one another… this could be in the same apartment building in a city, or in a suburban neighborhood, or something like that.

My brother’s wife’s family actually already do this. They have several adult daughters and their parents each with their own house in the same neighborhood. This works really well for them as they have built in babysitting they can trust and friends and help when they need it.

The biggest challenge I have with this in Los Angeles is the expense of real estate. Another major issue is that people have jobs in different areas of the city and this could create long commutes for some people. A few of my friends are business owners and could possibly do it with me, but they have already purchased homes thus committing themselves to the locations they are now.

I have thought of moving back to Washington to do this there. I could live fairly close to two of my brothers and also my grandparents. The challenge there is that it would be more difficult to run Coalition. I would also need to live in the very uninteresting town of Puyallup rather than a metropolitan city like Seattle.

I do think it will be important to join or build a tribe though soon. I just need to find ways to make it work.

Ground Fall

I have been climbing for six years now and yesterday had my first incident where I was on belay and my climber had a groundfall after clipping one bolt. Fortunately, we were indoors at Cliffs of Id and had thick padding so he was uninjured other than a rope burn. It was embarrassing and I felt really bad though… that should never happen when I am belaying.

What happened? Matt and Max and I were playing a game of trying to finish a climb using the least holds possible. Matt was the climber and I was belaying him. He did an impressive dyno to start the lead, clipped the first bolt, and went for the next highest hold he could reach.  He got up about a little past waist height with the second bolt. I should have said something, but Max called it out first to him. Matt started to downclimb a little bit, pulled on the rope to clip, then changed his mind. I pulled back in the slack when suddenly Matt slipped and fell. I didn’t expect the fall but still tried to sit down to remove slack but it wasn’t enough and Matt hit the ground from maybe ten feet up.

What lessons did I learn / relearn?

  • Allow absolutely minimum slack between the first and second bolt until that second bolt is clipped
  • While I usually need to jump to give my climber a soft catch, I need to back away faster and sit faster on falls on the first bolt
  • Don’t allow distractions to keep me from stopping my climber from making unsafe moves. Its easy for the climber to miss a bolt or get the rope around his heel or something or backclip and the belayer needs to call that out.

Thankfully, Matt wasn’t injured other than a rope burn and a sore calf. Could have been worse.

I have high expectations for my belayer when I am climbing, and need to have much higher expectations for myself. How can I expect a good belay if I don’t give one?

More Effort = Easier & Happier Life

As a child I thought that the happiest lives were the laziest ones… people who were rich and could just relax all day.

As an adult, I have realized the opposite is true. The times I have done nothing have been some of the most depressing times in my life.

The harder I work (as long as I balance that work evenly between exercise, learning, finance, and social / emotional well being), the happier I am.

I rated yesterday (Sunday) a 10 on my happiness scale of 1-10. What did I do?

  • Ran 2.5 miles first thing in the morning
  • Programmed for 3 hours watching laracasts and refactoring scoretask
  • Climbed at Cliffs of id for 1.5 hours with a friend Brett
  •  Wrote a blog post
  • Took a nap
  • Worked another 3-4 hours on laracasts / scoretask.
  • Watched a movie with Laurel
  • Played rocket league for an hour